High Conflict Personalities Do Not Have to Cause Destructive Divorces
Zephyrhills, Fla. – Nasty, messy and difficult divorces are all over the headlines these days. From spouses who rant and throw things, and some that would rather be at war than rationally discuss what is best for their children, divorce is overpowering the news media.
Divorce is already a stressful event but when one party has a high conflict personality, legal representation early on may help avoid an all-out battle. If a soon-to-be ex is becoming more egotistical, narcissistic, and selfish, it is a sign that it’s time for a divorce attorney to represent your interests.
“Do not let a spouse intimidate you and force you into something you are not comfortable with,” said Zephyrhills family law attorney Marcie Baker at Alston & Baker, P.A. “Remember, if you enter into a Marital Settlement Agreement (MSA) without understanding the legal consequences, you probably won’t be able to get out of the agreement on the grounds that you didn’t understand it.” Get a lawyer who is trial ready, will stand up for your rights, and work with their client to achieve a better future.
High conflict personalities may be extremely charming one minute, and then in attack mode the next. Bill Eddy, an attorney that runs the High Conflict Institute in Arizona, said these types of people “create conflict because in an unconscious twisted way, this is how they maintain the relationship. They stay connected to many people in their life through conflict.”
Eddy recommends setting limits on how an individual responds to this type of person. “Be brief, informative, and firm when responding to emails, angry voicemails, and don’t take their anger personally,” Eddy said. “Their behavior has no power unless you give it power.” More importantly, do not stoop to their level, as it can backfire in court.
Having an experienced divorce attorney in Zephyrhills or Tampa Bay who knows how to handle a high conflict personality at the opposing table, during negotiations, and at trial is extremely important. Marcie Baker, of Alston & Baker, P.A. is respected by clients and court peers for her knowledge and assertiveness, even in difficult divorce cases. She is adept at negotiations and divorce trials and takes a problem-solving approach to help her clients resolve their divorce and family law matters.